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How to approach wife for intimacy?
by Matt
(Toms River, NJ)
You gotta admit it, Flamingos have a nice pair of limbs!
Is there any correct way? I think not.
I've found it's best to show no interest at all. Any interest is construed as offensive and derogatory. Well, not all interest....It is not a sexless marriage, just not as frequent as I might like (daily).
I'm 44 she's 43. Two children, 12 and 15, small house 1400 sq. ft..."Shhhhh we can't the kids will know what we are doing"... Ugh.
I love my wife, everything about her. Mind, body, soul. When I approach her she feels pressured and/or disrespected. I am completely confused.
Any thoughts?
Dear Matt,
Fine line, Matt. Sometimes a woman may feel that you're only interested in her physical self. Of course if you weren't, then she'd be hurt because you didn't think she was beautiful.
Women are strange cookies. We chickens simply don't operate this way, but I see this with countless couples.
The best thing you can do is to be completely honest with your wife. Tell her exactly what you said here... and more.
The fact that you love everything about her - that's the driving force behind your desire!
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder - to you, she's a beauty and you want to hold her.
You seem to be a very patient guy when it comes to your wife. Let's see if that virtue holds true whilst you wait for a reply from Dr. Julia!
Dr. Julia is with a couple right now in a similar situation, so hang tight... as they are bound to be used in her answer to you.
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Mrs. FlamingoNEW by: Dr. Julia
A special note on the Flamingo couple that served as a case study in this example.
Once Mr. Flamingo listed six or seven wonderful attributes pertaining to his wife's person, there erupted yet another disagreement.
It seemed that Mrs. was quite put out over the fact that her "great legs" weren't on the list.
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Love LanguagesNEW by: Anonymous
I wonder if Matt knows anything about "love languages".
There is a lot of info out there about how different people respond to different activities. Some people respond to touch, others to encouragement and praise, others to completed tasks etc.
Might pay very well dividends to invest the time to research these love languages and find out from your wife what hers would be.
Hope this helps.
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Love LanguagesNEW by: Lora
Love languages... yes! Italian. I'm pretty sure that's a winner.
