How to approach wife for intimacy?
by Matt
(Toms River, NJ)
You gotta admit it, Flamingos have a nice pair of limbs!
Is there any correct way? I think not.
I've found it's best to show no interest at all. Any interest is construed as offensive and derogatory. Well, not all interest....It is not a sexless marriage, just not as frequent as I might like (daily).
I'm 44 she's 43. Two children, 12 and 15, small house 1400 sq. ft..."Shhhhh we can't the kids will know what we are doing"... Ugh.
I love my wife, everything about her. Mind, body, soul. When I approach her she feels pressured and/or disrespected. I am completely confused.
Any thoughts?
Dear Matt,
Fine line, Matt. Sometimes a woman may feel that you're only interested in her physical self. Of course if you weren't, then she'd be hurt because you didn't think she was beautiful.
Women are strange cookies. We chickens simply don't operate this way, but I see this with countless couples.
The best thing you can do is to be completely honest with your wife. Tell her exactly what you said here... and more.
The fact that you love everything about her - that's the driving force behind your desire!
Beauty is in the eyes of the beholder - to you, she's a beauty and you want to hold her.
I get it. Now make her... understand, that is.
Dr. Julia Chicken
P.S. Women are baffling. If you want to gain an understanding of women in relationships, see this article.
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