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Raising Boys

by Alastair
(Norway)

Boys Will Be Boys

Raising Boys using Blackmail?

I would love to make my boys do what they're told without having to resort to blackmail?

It did not start out this way, but now I feel I need to use this tactic for just about everything?

Who was it that said: having kids was a blessing or that having kids gives many blessings?

They deliberately left out all the unblessings?

Don't get me wrong, I love my boys, but sometimes they can be a handful. Anyone who has boys may know what I mean and may also be able to help?

All advice welcome! :-)

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logical consequences.
by: Anonymous

Stick with logical consequences. You break something, you pay for it. You waste time, you don't have time to do what you want. ETC...

Money as a pizza worked for my children on wasting stuff. If we use the money for this we don't have it for that. Where do you want the bigger slice of money to go...

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Hope this Helps!
by: Sandra

Ok I raised a boy and a girl and I will tell you they are very different!

They are grown now and great young adults! I also love my kids, but there were times that they had me at wits end!

All I know is spend as much time as possible with them.

Don't just tell them to do something, explain to them why they need to do this.

Talk to them and let them know that they are able to come to you for anything.

Don't just tell them every day that you love them and that they are very important to you, you have to show them.

When they do something good praise them, but when they do something wrong you have to be firm. They have to know their boundaries. What they can and can't do.

Raising kids is a lot of work, but believe me it is worth it. And never forget to listen to them. Don't know if this will help, but I will be praying for you and your boys!

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Mother of 3 boys
by: Casey

Consistency is the key.

If they have done something wrong, let them know straight away and always have the same stand, day in and day out.

Sometimes parents tend to give in depending on the mood so we have to remember what we did when they have committed the same mistake before.

Trust them enough to know that they'll do the right thing.

Do not threaten them with words that you cannot follow through .. like . "I'll ship you to Timbuktu if you do that again ..."

Let them resolve their own squabbles as long as they are not in a fist fight.
Moderation is always a good thing in everything and every way.

Let them know that money doesn't grow on trees.
Show them how much you care.
Let them know they can always count on you to be there for them.

Praise, Praise, Praise, Praise
Encourage them and let them know they can be more than they can ever dream of.
Spend quality time with them no matter how short it will be.

Try to know what their interests are .. like what games they're playing, Be an older friend to their friends.

Nagging will not get you anywhere.

And the most important of all, you and your spouse/partner must present a united front whenever one of you discipline them.

You can argue with your spouse/partner behind closed doors if there's something wrong with the way one of you handled the situation.

I am thankful to God that they grew up to be responsible young adults. Respectful and mindful of people and things around them.

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Consistency is the key. If they have done something wrong, let them know straight away and always have the same stand, day in and day out. Sometimes parents tend to give in depending on the mood so we have to remember what we did when they have committed the same mistake before. Trust them enough to know that they'll do the right thing. Do not threaten them with words that you cannot follow through .. like . "I'll ship you to Timbuktu if you do that again ..." Let them resolve their own squabbles as long as they are not in a fist fight. Moderation is always a good thing in everything and every way. Let them know that money doesn't grow on trees. Show them how much you care. Let them know they can always count on you to be there for them. Praise, Praise, Praise, Praise Encourage them and let them know they can be more than they can ever dream of. Spend quality time with them no matter how short it will be. Try to know what their interests are .. like what games they're playing, Be an older friend to their friends. Nagging will not get you anywhere. And the most important of all, you and your spouse/partner must present a united front whenever one of you discipline them. You can argue with your spouse/partner behind closed doors if there's something wrong with the way one of you handled the situation. I am thankful to God that they grew up to be responsible young adults. Respectful and mindful of people and things around them.

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Thanks for the comments to date!
by: AMK

My oldest boy loses cell phone rights when he disobeys. This has a good effect. The longer he waits, the more time he loses. Seems to work OK for now!

Since my finances are tighter, using the idea based on how much money we have may come in handy. So we have devised a system and put it on the fridge door.

All the other comments have been taken on board. thank you all so far and feel free to comment more if you have new ideas :-)

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Works w/dog, cats and husbands, too!
by: Barbara

Very good suggestions.

I don't have 2 legged children, but you can always tell the children whose parents take an interest in their activities and make sure to let them know how important they are.

I can also say that the above methods work equally as well with dogs and cats.

An explanation (not sure what they actually understand) followed by consistent enforcement works far better than a swat on the butt.

I tell my dogs and cats a million times a day how much I like them. If I had children, I'd do the same!

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Yes, Barbara!
by: Dr. Julia Chicken

Barbara,

And don't forgot...

Always make sure that they have plenty of free access to fresh, clean water.

I believe it is six to eight bowls... er, glasses a day.

Dr. J

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